The dance feels… off.
You may be dancing with the same partner, but perhaps the music has changed, you keep fighting or stepping on each other’s toes, or you’re just out of sync.
You may feel disconnected or trapped in the same, endless argument—stuck in a cycle of pushing and pulling away, lashing out or withdrawing. Maybe you’re carrying pain from conflict or work stress. Or you might be overwhelmed by big transitions like your parents getting older or kids leaving home.
Joy and intimacy may have fallen by the wayside. You both yearn to be heard, understood, and appreciated. You want to get back to how it used to be—the love, the belly laughs, the long conversations, the simple yet unforgettable moments.
But you don’t know how to repair this.
No matter what’s going on or what crisis you’re experiencing, it’s not too late to come together.
Find your rhythm again.
True Nature Counseling is a private practice offering emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples in Evergreen, Conifer, and Golden, Colorado.
As a certified EFT couples therapist and relationships specialist, I strive to build a safe, reliable space to help you heal as individuals and feel more connected as partners — deepening your relationship as you navigate stressors and life transitions.
Contact me to figure out the next steps in your journey.
Relationships are hard work…
Especially in the thick of midlife burnout.
You or your partner may be:
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Having the same fight over and over again
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Feeling lonely, unheard, or disconnected
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Having trouble communicating effectively
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Feeling stuck in a situation that isn’t good enough to stay, nor bad enough to leave
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Dealing with life transitions (e.g., kids growing up, career shifts, aging parents)
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Struggling with intimacy, feeling more like friends than romantic partners
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Contending with external stressors (e.g., parenting issues, money, demanding jobs)
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Trying to recover from lies, betrayal, or infidelity
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Going through a crisis, contemplating separation or divorce
Relationships are such a crucial part of our lives that when they suffer, we suffer. This distress may contribute to increased anxiety, depression, and substance use, potentially increasing the stress and turning into a harmful loop.
…but EFT couples therapy can help.
Going through relationship challenges like the above is painful, but completely normal.
We all long for solid, meaningful bonds that make us feel safe, seen, and supported (healthy attachment). But these bonds often go through tidal waves—times when you might feel angry, hurt, unseen, or uncertain about each other.
EFT provides a roadmap for building a healthier, more secure attachment with your partner by helping you:
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Break negative cycles
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Gain insight into your emotions and attachment needs
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And express them with greater understanding and compassion
What I love about this model is that it encourages emotional awareness to help you heal, rewire your attachment system, and foster a safer, stronger bond. EFT can also support you in processing trauma or “leveling up” the trauma work done in individual therapy.
Benefits of EFT couples therapy
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EFT gets to what’s underneath: we’ll identify the negative cycle underlying your issues, along with each partner's emotions, stories, and attachment needs.
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EFT is experiential: instead of simply talking about your problems, you’ll practice noticing and sharing emotions during conflict, pausing to interrupt the cycle, and communicating with clarity and empathy. Over time, this carries over outside of therapy.
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EFT sparks long-term positive change: we move beyond surface communication skills to foster a space where you can truly see, understand, and reach for each other, resulting in lasting change in your relationship.
How does EFT couples therapy work?
Get to know your relationship
First, we’ll take some time to understand your relationship.
What brought you together? What’s your journey been like? How’s the relationship right now?
I’ll get to know you individually and as a couple, to see where you are, where you’ve been, and the many contexts shaping how each of you shows up.
De-escalate conflict
Then, we’ll address the current crisis (if there’s one), identifying the negative cycle underneath it all—the pattern leading either of you to react, withdraw, or feel hurt.
We’ll map out what may be fueling this loop, the underlying thoughts, emotions, fears, and attachment needs, and what each of you requires to feel safe and connected—like you can count on each other through thick and thin.
Change relational patterns
Our past experiences, narratives, or beliefs tend to drive these negative interaction patterns. We’ll go to the source, opening up space for vulnerable conversations. I’ll guide you in sharing your deep-rooted emotions, articulating your longings, and listening with empathy.
You’ll begin to understand and respond to each other with compassion as you let go of these old ways, heal attachment wounds, and form a more secure bond.
Oftentimes, you might not know what you need, and that’s ok. Slowing down can help us discover those needs, allowing you and your partner to support each other in the most nourishing and comforting ways.
Integrate new skills
With time, you’ll bring your growing emotional awareness, empathy, and communication skills into everyday life. This can mean less conflict, guilt, and shame; fewer anger outbursts; and decreased anxiety or depression, as well as more meaningful conversations.
As you integrate these changes, you’ll be able to develop positive patterns, navigate and prevent other challenges, and plant seeds for a healthy, long-lasting bond. All while trusting that your partner has your back through life’s stressors.
EFT couples therapy at True Nature Counseling
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We’ll start with a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your concerns and goals. I’ll explain my approach and process and answer your questions.
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If we’re a good fit, we’ll schedule an initial 75-minute session as a couple, followed by individual 50-minute break-out sessions to dive into each partner’s attachment history. This helps paint a picture of why you approach relationships the way you do and how we might begin to heal your attachment system to support your bond.
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Then, you’ll return as a couple for ongoing 75-minute sessions.
We’ll meet in person in a private, comfortable office (or online via a secure telehealth platform as needed). Frequency and number of sessions vary based on your unique situation, progress, and goals.
I provide hybrid options (a mix of in-person and online therapy) for ease and flexibility. However, my approach is ideal for in-person sessions, where we can go deeper in less time.
Marie Cobb, MS, MA, LPC | Certified EFT couples therapist in Evergreen, Conifer, and Golden, Colorado
I’m Marie, a licensed professional counselor and relationship specialist. I’m committed to supporting adults in Evergreen, Conifer, and Golden, Colorado, with individual and couples therapy.
I’m one of the few couples counselors in the area who’s trained and certified in emotionally focused therapy (EFT). As an EFT couples therapist, I love working with all types of couples in different stages of their journey, especially those navigating challenges in midlife. If you’re feeling stuck after working with traditional approaches, we can also discuss ketamine-assisted psychotherapy (KAP) as an optional tool.
I understand therapy is hard work and a significant investment. I’ve personally seen how it continues to support the growth and depth of my 16-year marriage, allowing us to become stronger parents and more compassionate partners as we balance the needs of tween and teenage kids.
I’m here to guide and facilitate, not to judge or arbitrate. I won’t take sides or determine who’s right or wrong. My job is to support you in growing your relationship together or finding clarity as you realize you might have grown apart.
Ready to dance again?
You may be tripping and stumbling through the dance.
But that doesn’t mean it’s over.
Let’s collaborate to restore your connection and explore new ways to dance together in this next chapter of your lives.
Call 303-622-3839 or book a consultation.